I'm not actually going to kill myself. For a while, I'm needed. Right now, with my stepdad having passed away this year, I feel like my mom needs me. So I'll be here for her. But after a shitty day. At my shitty job, I just felt the need to write this.
While I'd like to sit and name all the people who make me feel this way, honestly, really it's only myself I can blame. Because really, I just hate myself. I know, I've seen a therapist. And I know I'm supposed to do positive self talk. But I don't know how. I've tried. It feels stupid. The only thing that at least feels right is listing off all the ways I suck. Because if I list off what in my life sucks, it is directly corresponding to the ways I suck. Let's start.
I'm single because I'm ugly and boring and stupid and annoying, and probably really not a very nice person. I try to be nice, but I don't know that it works. I'm not good at anything. Or there's nothing people will come to me for because they know I'm good at it. Or at least there's nothing I'm better at than anyone else. I'm not really smart. For years I thought I was. I did advanced classes at school, was ahead in some subjects. But even then the minute I went anywhere else, there was always someone better/smarter, etc.
I'm stuck at a job I hate because I'm a sucky librarian. I was probably a sucky teacher too. The only reason I got two of the good jobs I had before was due to luck or timing. NKC came about because the HR person had switched and a new school was opening and I knew the questions that were going to be asked on the interview and the last school I'd worked at the Science Olympiad team went to nationals, not through anything I really did, there was a team of parents coaching that did all the real work.
My first librarian job came at a great school because one of the people there was moved because of issues with the other librarian, and so I got to go to an awesome school. But even there I sucked. I had lots of grand plans and ideas, all beat out of me by the co-librarian at the time as well as just because I suck and am not good enough to actually put into action the things I want to do.
I'm broke because I suck at money and I suck at not spending it when I'm feeling bad or on things I know I don't need.
But the reason I don't want to be alive is because there's not a reason I need to be here. I don't help in any way. I mean right now I do with my mom, but maybe I should have done something before my stepdad passed away? I also want to be here for my niece and nephew. But they don't need me. Their lives would be fine without me. There is not one single person (other than my mom right now) that wouldn't probably be just as good if not better off if I was gone. Even she might be better off financially if she wasn't still helping me out with stuff. There was a time that my dogs were what kept me alive. But I know that my friend would take them and find them homes if anything happened to me.
I wish I could give my life so other people could live. People with spouses, children, anyone who is needed and a better person than I am.
Over and over in my head all I can think is the line from Taylor Swift's song, "I hate it here". Because I do at my job. I do on this Earth. I wish my mom had not gotten married to my dad, instead when she got pregnant, I wish she'd had an abortion. I wish that car accident I had when my car rolled in the 90s that I'd died in that accident. And that's another thing I suck at. I'll never kill myself. I keep having a little hope that things are worth it, but more than that I just am too stupid/lazy/incompetent to do it. If there was ever a school shooting where I work, I guess I could put myself in front of someone else and save them and be done with my own life.
So that's it. I wouldn't blame anyone in my family. I've had a pretty good family, and I know how lucky I am for that. There are people in my life that I've worked with, thought were friends, that I could list, but I know no one other than my family would really miss me. And as I said, their lives would go on just fine without me.
That's it, I just needed to write it somewhere.